My time

For Treyson’s first bday party, Tyler was caught smoking weed at my aunt’s house while we sang happy birthday. Tyler’s family was around but was never really helpful. They enabled Tyler and his addiction, I tried telling them that when I was pregnant, they didn’t listen. 

Have you caught on yet? No, don’t worry, you will!

By Treyson’s fourth birthday, a tradition I started, my aunts house with bounce house, Tyler never made it to any other birthday party’s. Tyler’s family stopped coming too. I wanted one day out of the year where Trey could have his entire family together to celebrate him. That no longer was working and Trey knew it. After heading home from his last party, he asked why his dad wasn’t there. This was not the first time, nor would it be the last. Treyson cried not understanding what was going on. Mind you, Treyson had never seen us together as a couple and we never married. So, growing up without Tyler, Trey was confused on who his father was. Trey had heard me call my dad “dad”, heard my nieces calling my brother “dad”, but he hardly got the chance to even say dad. 

My son wanted a dad, he knew he was missing out of something good. It was clear when he first asked a complete stranger at Walmart to marry me, after finding out he had a dog. That was the qualifications to marrying me, he had to have a dog. I was not only embarrassed but ashamed my son had to go to this extent to get what he desperately desired. 

I decided after his fourth birthday we would do something other than a party his dad wouldn’t show up to. By his fifth birthday, I managed to save as much money as I could to get a hotel on the beach in Daytona Beach, FL. This was going to be a new tradition for us and he didn’t have to worry about inviting anyone. For his sixth birthday we went to Virginia Beach and stopped to visit family as well. 

For Treyson’s seventh birthday my world flipped upside down, once again, living in Texas with a husband of 4 months. You are probably asking yourself “how is that possible?”, its was not something I planned nor did I question it.