My time

My mother had a gambling problem, she had such a problem that she borrowed money from everyone she could, my brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, even the gambling boat gave her a loan. My mother had dug herself a gambling debt for over a year without anyone questioning her. Tell me she’s not manipulative as hell now! 

I‘m not sure if her admitting to me that was going to change my mind on moving or just a reach out for “help” mentally. Either way, I made the calls to all family, told everyone and left it up to all of them to help her. My focus was my family, she no longer was included in that after what she did to our family. 

Before we get into the Texas life, let’s update you on my narcissistic mother choices she made up until this point. 

In 2010, I got the opportunity of a lifetime to go to Rome with a Navy friend I met through a classmate of mine. The day before I left my mother came to my apartment with a DNA test kit. Now, my mind was already scattered due to leaving my son while I travel to another county and not freak out. She knew the timing was perfect, knew I wasn’t thinking clearly and knew she could get me to do her dirty work. She got what she needed and when she was leaving asked me not to mention it to dad, as Rod is the one we are testing for. Why you ask? Well, because my mother was “in love” with Rod. If you ask me, she never loved my dad, or anyone, she loved herself. She wanted Rod to be a biological father, she wanted a reason to be in his life forever. 

It’s funny looking back at it all now, my mother was in love with Rod while married to my father. She cheated on my father with, well many others, but she also cheated on JT, her now husband, with my dad, probably others as well. Don’t ask me how I know that, I refuse to repeat it! My life is fucked as it is, I have mentally blocked it out. Fuck you Aaron O! LOL

While I took my trip to Rome, my mother got the test results. Now, a nice mother would wait for me to return to give me such news to do it in person. Not my mother, she decided to call me with dad on speakerphone to let me know that her and dad were getting a divorce. That when I returned from Rome, my mother wouldn’t be living with my dad anymore. My response “good, did you get the test results back?”. Yeah, I did that on purpose, she tried to ruin my “once in a lifetime vacation” with her bullshit. She was pissed and said she hadn’t gotten them yet. Instead, she had to have another talk with dad as he wasn’t happy with that information. Remember my dad never wanted me to know, he didn’t want to know so we could still have the relationship we had. I hung up and didn’t answer another call from my mother on my trip. She did leave a voicemail that said, “I got the results, they were negative.” Nothing about, congrats, your dad is your real dad. Another manipulative tactic for my mother.