My time

Dave snapped more and more often, mostly about Trey not doing or doing something he didn’t like, or he accused me of cheating constantly. I don’t know exactly when during COVID he changed, but the drinking got out of hand. I finally told him the drinking was a problem, but that didn’t stop him. I stopped picking it up on my way home from work, thinking that would stop him. Of course not, that was a good enough reason for him to leave the house, but for no other reason.

I would come home to ten or twelve empty beer bottles sitting on the counter when I got home from work. I didn’t work late, it was five in the evening. So, by the time I got home Dave was already drunk, some times in a good mood, but most of the time in a bad mood. His mood didn’t get any better while “World of Warcraft” came out. Some video game he played years before and they updated it. This also became an issue, even for his job not that he would admit.

I had to travel for my job out west and I was excited and nervous to leave Trey with Dave. There were times I had locked me and Trey in our guest room while Dave threw his tantrum.s He would scream and yell “you’re white trash, you will never be anything without me”, or “you’re such white trash as your family, go back to where you came from”. Those weren’t even the nastiest things he would say about me and my family. 

Six years was long enough to know how things will turn out, but I was determined to keep our family together. I tried for the next year, while divorce papers sat in my desk at work. I threatened to leave, he would tell me to leave, but it was all talk. 

As COVID is slowing down, Dave decides he needs a break from us and goes to Alabama to visit his parents. He left in the beginning of July and stayed the whole month.

We didn’t talk the first two weeks, I was enjoying the time without him, Trey and I both did. When he got back, I thought the drinking would slow down if not stop, no way he was drinking that much in front of his parents. Unfortunately, the drinking didn’t change, it got worse. So much worse, our Thanksgiving in 2020 was one for the books!